Author: Margaret

Forgiveness

I have discovered that wholly loving myself requires that I actively work to relieve my pain. This is not simply about being “happy.” The reason lies in the imperative to live a worthwhile life. If my mind is crippled by emotional pain, I cannot live a meaningful life. The pain directly caused by another person Read More …

Love & the Aurora Borealis

The stars are always in the sky, but we need darkness to see them. The moon is there too — 238,900 miles away, so much bigger than any other bright spot in the big sky. And it changes shape depending upon one’s view. The sun is always in the sky — whether it’s cloudy or raining, Read More …

Weaving your own silver lining

Silver linings don’t materialize out of thin air, or magic. We weave our own silver linings with the threads of our own imagination, spirit, and courage.   • • • • • When we suffer a trauma —  job loss, injury, death, or something bizarre and out of the blue, people commonly talk of silver linings. “Opportunities being born out of crisis”; “When Read More …

Inspiration can hide in plain sight

I had an amazing conversation this morning. Amazing because I woke up so discouraged; “borderline depressed” is probably closer to the truth. So it was edging toward 11 a.m. and I needed to call a client back. I didn’t feel like it. I felt kind of lazy, introverted, and had a kind of “f*** everything” attitude. Read More …

Acceptance

If you have been alive at least a few years, you have learned there are things that you can neither change nor control. Learning to accept certain things requires a combination of surrender, strength, self-love and a kind of a focused imagination. You don’t argue with the tides; they are inevitable. You don’t judge trees because they are bent. You Read More …

Rape Culture: All over again

October 9, 2016 — The story broke about 36 hours ago:  Donald Trump was caught on tape saying some disgusting things about being able to grab a woman, and they’ll let him, because he’s famous. Bragging about groping a woman (and a *married* woman). I think “narcissistic pig” is an understatement. The only consolation in this Read More …

On being human

My life has, at times, felt like assembling a jigsaw puzzle on a roller coaster — frantic, confusing, and frequently bizarre. Call me a survivor, human pretzel, sometime circus juggler, and mom. I have felt like a sidewalk performer sometimes — with one too many balls in the air, dealing with yet another perplexing, and Read More …